lets paint a picture

 just wanted to add a sort of psa here. stop engaging with alysses baity shit on the gabby petito thread. do not post ss of anything, let her rage into the void and report her disrupting comments. and her profile too for good measure.

also, i do not believe for a fuckin second that gabrelle posting on that thread all a sudden is a coincidence. i would bet real money that alysse called her for backup. please dont risk getting banned over alysse, shes not worth it.

(i added this here cus theres some people i enjoy reading on that thread)

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its not been hard to put together a picture of the kind of person alysse is. bbc updated their search and its quite easy now to search for peoples histories. please note that i didnt have to go too far into the results to find this.

first, lets start with the most recent bullshit on gabby petitos thread.

she was caping hard for a murderer and his parents, who, btw, are rich white people. then she went off the deep end and said how she would kill her own innocent father if her daughter needed an organ from him.

the thing is we all would kill for our kids. i dont think theres a single parent who wouldnt, but never an innocent person.

then she jumped the shark by posing an impossible and outlandish scenario. seriously? lolololol does this bitch really believe that "saw like" scenarios happen routinely to people? wtf?!? lol

lol except no one said their opinions are facts or evidence. cus theyre fuckin opinions in a discussion on a mommy board, which btw, people are allowed to have and voice.

yes of course. lets all give an abuser the benefit of the doubt, presume him innocent even tho he hit her, controlled her, god knows what else he did to her, went back home alone in her fuckin van and told no one nothing of her whereabouts for literal weeks.

yes they are. they raised him didnt they? he learned to be an abusive controlling jerk from them.

 

this one is kind of hilarious. just a month ago she was talking in absolutes in the terrified about custody situation thread and she was demanding everyone agree with her cus she totally knows what shes talking about, dontcha know? its what she does for a living! (eyeroll)

 

she tried so hard to make the gabby petito thread about race, luckily no one took the bait.

 

after the third attempt she finally realized no one was going to be tricked into a race discussion so she changed tactics and made it all about herself and her own victimhood, cus shes the only victim of abuse that can think straight apparently. the rest of us are just stupid senseless morons that can only think emotionally not logically.

and yes, i blocked out her tragedy porn stuff. she is gross to think that she and she alone has survived the very worst forms of violence that a man can inflict on a woman. never mind that some women have survived much much worse, some even multiple times.

disgusting how she tries to quantify trauma while completely disregarding other peoples traumatic experiences.

 

then she was her usual victim blaming cunt on monkeysluvinmommys thread. and yes, i said victim blamer, she does it all the time. telling an abuse victim shes choosing to stay is victim blaming, its not that easy to leave. if it was easy for alysse, fuckin good for her, but thats not the case for everyone.

and like always, she had to make monkeys thread about her and how perfect and awesome she is and how monkey is disgusting for staying with her asshole husband.

then she tried to play dumb when called out.

 polishbymarriage told her her tone was shitty, which it was. that thread is not about alysse and what she would/wouldnt do. its about the op.

most of alysses posts reek of "lift yourself up by your bootstraps" bullshit. quite weird considering its what racists say about the oppression of black and brown people. "if i can do it, they can do it too" completely disregarding the oppressive racist system that continually places traps, obstacles, pot holes and boobytraps on the path of black and brown folks.

lol duty calls. will be back later tonight and continue "painting".

continuing.

heres some of her gems from the custody thread.

the op repeatedly said she didnt know what was going on besides the very general facts of the situation. mom had been arrested, her kids had been taken or placed with their grandparents, the mom could not reclaim the children from ops parents home cus they had some sort of document to prove they had a right to keep the kids. alysse insisted that it just couldnt have happened that way cus cps wasnt involved and mom had rights, blah blah blah.

she got super defensive at the dead beat moms comment op made. i wonder why tho. if shes such an "excellent fucking mother" why does the dead beat mom bit bother her so much. truth hurts i guess.

stupid bitch kept blabbing on and on how she alone knows everything about custody and cps and parents rights cus she deals with it every day. btw, alysse conviniently forgot to mention shes been at that job for like 5 fuckin minutes. oh, and that such a thing as fuckin kinship placement exists.

ugh, again, shes been a social worker for 5 fuckin minutes! not kidding. she started around april. but she thinks she already knows everything about cps. everything.

and the op never directed the deadbeat mom comment at anyone. she was annoyed cus people kept telling her her mother had no rights despite op saying her mother had a fuckin document saying she most certainly had rights.

and op was right to be annoyed. her mother was called a kidnapper and people wished the mom would take the kids away forever even after op explained the mom had been arrested for assault and had a gun, and it all happened with the kids in the fuckin house.

like a poster told alysse, anyone with an ounce of common fuckin sense would have deduced that the piece of paper was an emergency custody order. but nope, alysse was being wilfully obtuse just to be a bitch.

"talking so deplorable to other mothers" lololololol she means she got butthurt cus "deadbeat moms" hit a little too close to home

lolololololol that shit really got under her skin!! lolololol

lolololol shes never heard of anyone refer to a court order as a piece of paper? lololol except that when you get your copy of a court order guess how they give it to you? nope, not smoke signals or temporary tattoos, but printed on a fuckin piece of paper you dumb bitch! lol

then she got fuckin obsessed with trying to get people to berate op for the same things she had been to obtuse to understand or deduce on her own.

it was like she just had to see op "punished".

it was kind of disturbing to see alysse demand other posters be berated cus she felt attacked. and she tried hard to imply that the posters pushing back on her were targeting her, like it was personal. and i guess in a way it was. alysse was the only crazy bitch that went balls to the wall, i-know-more-than-everyone-cus-its-what-i-do crazy.

 

anyhoo, i also found these poop nuggets of hers from back in may. mothers day to be exact. that thread obviously got buried after the shitshow.

so, the anon op was frustrated cus she was heavily pregnant and her lazy ass husband had promised to cook on mothers day then decided he didnt know how to cook, spent 30 minutes supposedly taking a crap, ate the leftovers intended for the kids, then expected op to still cook him dinner, op reacted in maybe not a reasonable manner but understandable.

like always, the thread took a turn and there was a debate on whether op overreacted or not. alysse started her bullshit by being a judgey bitch cus op was an adult and an adult is not supposed to react badly to anything ever. like a robot. then she shamed op for staying married to a selfish asshole and having his kids. then of course she had to tell everyone that yelling at a spouse is something she would never do or tolerate cus shes better than everyone.

then, she said that saying women carry the heavier mental and emotional load in a marriage with kids is sexist and disgusting lol.

then this.

pp never mentioned the word wife, it was alysse who inferred spokenfortruth was talking about the woman. and she refused to listen when people told her not everyone could afford to not cook every day. cus of course if she could afford healthy takeout then everyone can.

how the fuck does she work out that men work hard at jobs they hate so their wives can stay home? seriously? can she read all mens minds? has she polled all the married men in the world on their jobs and how much they enjoy/hate them?

but when she doesnt clean when shes not sick either. she pays a cleaner to come to her house a couple times a week. and she sends her laundry out too. so i dont know what the fuck she was talking about in ehoneybees thread that turned into a working mom v sahm debate.

and of course she could not miss the chance to tell everyone how excellent she is lol.

 

these next two are just hilarious. did she forget that she has said, on multiple occasions, that she doesnt have anything to do with her baby daddy? he was a cheater and an abuser, but shes never ever had a bad relationship?

and of course she just had to shame pp cus her standards are not as high as her own. who the fuck does this bitch think she is to judge and shame a woman for the person she married? she had a child with a fuckin loser! does she forget the stuff shes already shared before on bhb? or does she think no one will remember? or are people supposed to forget she bred with a fuckin loser cus she left him? ffs.

 

then she went on this long ass rant cus maggiesm0m caught alysses implication that sahm dont really work hard cus they love being sahm. and these evil sahm witches force their poor husbands to work 20 hours a day in jobs they hate so they can stay home with the crotch goblins and watch tv and eat bonbons lol.

 

like she did of course. it always comes back to how perfect she is cus she "broke the cycle"

so just cus she saw men do what sahm do they deserve all the medals and awards and statues in their honor, but if a woman does it, shes just a lazy sahm, worthless. okey dokey.

again shaming women for the way their husbands are. wtf?!?

again, does she think people dont remember she had a child with a man she hates?

right, she cHoOsEs not to be in a shitty relationship. cus shes just so perfect and better than a mom of four that hasnt had a job in 15 years cus the man she married promised to take care of everything and the woman trusted her fuckin husband to take care of everything but shes found out hes a cheater and cant leave cus then how could she support herself and her kids? how could she get a good enough paying job with zero experience? should she work three jobs and live in a tiny roach infested apartment? then alysse could shame her for living in filth cus shes a perfect single mom that cleans (not), cooks (not, cus takeout) and has time for breaks (yes cus free childcare from her "village"). like this is seriously the type of situation i see once a week at least. women dont fuckin choose to stay in shitty marriages, sometimes its fuckin impossible to leave. and its fuckin insensitive at the least to say women choose to stay.

she really went off on this crazy tangent cus maggiesm0m expressed her disbelief at all of alysses relationships being great but then why is she single. and obviously no body was talking specifically about this one relationship that ended cus of a literal life or death situation.

moving on to the dating someone in recovery thread. alysse started this one.

again she was a shaming, judgey bitch cus people are "choosing" to have kids with addicts. except there is such a thing as a functioning addict. theres a lot of people like that and usually very few people know of their addiction cus on the surface they look like average hard working people. but of course, you can always count on alysse to judge and shame people for not having a crystal ball and mind reading powers.

then a poster, violentdelights, said she was from a culture where drinking every day and drinking and driving were "normal" and alysse pounced on that and shamed the poster like she was ok with it even after violentdelights said she was changing the pattern and trying to do better and break the cycle.

alysse went full bitch mode and berated people cus addicts are horrible and dangerous. some people tried to explain that addiction is a disease, and a poster even told alysse to change addiction for chronic disease so she could understand addiction better. but nope.

yes, addicts make the choice to use the first time, but as soon as that first hit is taken, an addict loses all choice and control in the matter.

a heart attack behind the wheel is not a crime, but if you kill someone and survive yourself, you have to live with the fact that you took a life/lives.

dumb bitch actually tried to quantify child trauma and of course just cus she has a chronic disease its much more traumatic for a child to witness that than life with an active addict.

again generalizing. not all active addicts are unsafe. this dumb cunt probably interacts with an active addict every single day and she doesnt even realize it. does she think all addicts look like the typical caricature of an addict, skinny, greasy hair, scabs all over, or that they carry a sign identifying them?

she says she tells her kids (from the juvvie she worked at i imagine) that no one chooses to be an addict, except she already said all addicts choose to use the first time. which is it?

and again she has to make it about her. shes just so sickly!!1!1 poor alysse lol its totally out of her control, its the disease lol, except its the same way with addiction.

blahblahblah me me me im so sick, my life is so hard thats why im better than everyone (major eyeroll)

this is where she completely loses touch with reality.

a lot of the time its not that people want to be addicts, but they simply cannot afford to get clean, so they struggle and try to get clean and sober on their own but that is fuckin hard to do, let alone without help. alysse doesnt see the privilege she has in being able to have a way to get clean and keep her job while most other people would either be terminated for being addicts or lose their jobs for being absent while they get treatment.

can she be anymore obtuse? the fuckin thread was not about a chronic debilitating disease like ms or parkinsons. its about addiction. yes, also a disease, but a different kind.

um, good for her? yeah, good for her she only picks the good ones, right? lol